Ruin family

[TANNY]

Give and take.... Ya rite... I give and he take.... and if I dun give...he ask for it.

Ha ha ha... the meal things... You are not there or you will vomit blood.... How would you feel that at the end of every meal... at the time of bill paying time... and you know exactly that you will be the one who is going to pick up the bill (no need to say) and he scream at you and say that "you want to come here and eat ... and you pay"

Give and take????.... he did not object and gladly order and eat the food without complain ....but when the bill come... huh! Sometime don't even know why I need to have meal with him when everytime at the end of it... i got upset.

Is not the money.... is just that the feeling of being used.

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Making me feel like I only worth so much to him..... paying the bills.

I did help some friend selling their houses to earn some commission. Posted one offer at garage sales.

[howy_lee]

LOL i guess this called chiak nen peng ? ( eat soft rice ?)
oh well, this is what we call sheet happens right ? well since u eva felt being used and getting so much of complaints from him that makes u so helpless with it then make a statement from lawyer, i mean the worst plan is divorce. hope u dun mind anyway, and u may ask for child custody + fees too. well if he's try to threatening u, go for police report.

good den, be independent with yaself cuz everyday is a new day u can live without him, isn't true?

[TANNY]

(08-12-2008 07:56 PM)howy_lee Wrote:  LOL i guess this called chiak nen peng ? ( eat soft rice ?)
oh well, this is what we call sheet happens right ? well since u eva felt being used and getting so much of complaints from him that makes u so helpless with it then make a statement from lawyer, i mean the worst plan is divorce. hope u dun mind anyway, and u may ask for child custody + fees too. well if he's try to threatening u, go for police report.

good den, be independent with yaself cuz everyday is a new day u can live without him, isn't true?

Already divorce liow and the idiot have already remarried. Guess he has find himself another victim.

Lawyer notice has been issue out quite often and until today whenever he receive my legal notice.... he will said that I am the one who ruin the family by divorcing him....HE STILL DON'T GET IT...

VERY FRUSTRATED WITH HIM TILL TODAY.

[8deee]

i think he did not grow up from the past relationship....but it does not mean that you have to get frustrated with him....get over it....no point wasting energy for those who does not deserve it

I think there is no problem for single parents to raise children....but is tough for sure.....as time will be needed to be spent wisely

[Alyssa]

I really respect you Tanny. Not all have courage like you. My bf's Aunt used to turn up at a relatives wedding with a dark sunglasses because her eyes was bruised. Well she say she fell down and all sort but we all know what happen. That lady was tough to stand by her man for the sake of their only son. Guess what, the hubby doesn't have a proper job. She's the bread winner of the family and still have to have time to take care of her son. So pity.

But from what you have told us, although your children appear to be understanding, but i still think you need a lot of time to communicate with them, especially if they are still young, they might grow up with a wrong perception of family and relationship. At times like this it is best you spend more time with them. Don't worry, should you need any help or support, i think we all here can always lend u a helping hand.

About your ex, you can totally forget about him! Why get frustrated? Why bother answering his call and listen to all the crap? you don't have to! if for me I will not waste my time bothering about things that does not add value to myself or my life.

About the house, so sorry but I don't think it will be suitable for my fren. however, if i have a buyer, will let you know. About some of the forumers telling side income, it is also true. i understand that now you are doing financially fine. But you definitely have to start thinking about finding a source a stable side income which is going to last very very long. You definitely need a back-up income. Every car has a spare tyre rite?

[TANNY]

(08-13-2008 12:10 PM)Alyssa Wrote:  I really respect you Tanny. Not all have courage like you. My bf's Aunt used to turn up at a relatives wedding with a dark sunglasses because her eyes was bruised. Well she say she fell down and all sort but we all know what happen. That lady was tough to stand by her man for the sake of their only son. Guess what, the hubby doesn't have a proper job. She's the bread winner of the family and still have to have time to take care of her son. So pity.

But from what you have told us, although your children appear to be understanding, but i still think you need a lot of time to communicate with them, especially if they are still young, they might grow up with a wrong perception of family and relationship. At times like this it is best you spend more time with them. Don't worry, should you need any help or support, i think we all here can always lend u a helping hand.

About your ex, you can totally forget about him! Why get frustrated? Why bother answering his call and listen to all the crap? you don't have to! if for me I will not waste my time bothering about things that does not add value to myself or my life.

About the house, so sorry but I don't think it will be suitable for my fren. however, if i have a buyer, will let you know. About some of the forumers telling side income, it is also true. i understand that now you are doing financially fine. But you definitely have to start thinking about finding a source a stable side income which is going to last very very long. You definitely need a back-up income. Every car has a spare tyre rite?

Thank you very much for your advice...and you are right. I shouldn't bother with whatever he said.

I do have a stable job...selling houses is just something I do occassionally to earn some side income.

[Alyssa]

(08-13-2008 12:32 PM)TANNY Wrote:  

(08-13-2008 12:10 PM)Alyssa Wrote:  I really respect you Tanny. Not all have courage like you. My bf's Aunt used to turn up at a relatives wedding with a dark sunglasses because her eyes was bruised. Well she say she fell down and all sort but we all know what happen. That lady was tough to stand by her man for the sake of their only son. Guess what, the hubby doesn't have a proper job. She's the bread winner of the family and still have to have time to take care of her son. So pity.

But from what you have told us, although your children appear to be understanding, but i still think you need a lot of time to communicate with them, especially if they are still young, they might grow up with a wrong perception of family and relationship. At times like this it is best you spend more time with them. Don't worry, should you need any help or support, i think we all here can always lend u a helping hand.

About your ex, you can totally forget about him! Why get frustrated? Why bother answering his call and listen to all the crap? you don't have to! if for me I will not waste my time bothering about things that does not add value to myself or my life.

About the house, so sorry but I don't think it will be suitable for my fren. however, if i have a buyer, will let you know. About some of the forumers telling side income, it is also true. i understand that now you are doing financially fine. But you definitely have to start thinking about finding a source a stable side income which is going to last very very long. You definitely need a back-up income. Every car has a spare tyre rite?

Thank you very much for your advice...and you are right. I shouldn't bother with whatever he said.

I do have a stable job...selling houses is just something I do occassionally to earn some side income.

Hi Tanny,

you are most wecomed. Stable job is very important. but don't forget that the economy is very unstable and anything might happen. it is best that you start looking into 2nd, 3rd, and so on options. Just my 2 cents

[TANNY]

ha ha ha..... single mum with two kids.... balancing jobs and kids is already hard enough... You think I still have the time to look for another few option....

Do you have kids? I guess not..... coz... kids really took up a lot a lot of your time....

[howy_lee]

wat did alyssa said is true about take care bout 2 kids there, teach them so that wont step back like what are u facing now, if not mayb in future they just feel it its alright to happen these kind of sheet. well about d guy, haha yeah probably he getting new victim(s), he had not pay u for ya expense ?crap, go on with ya lawyer, or higher court order

anyway stable job, how stable do u recognise it first? are u sure ntg will happen to u? in case of emergency no one will knows it. secure urself but dun think too much if not i bet u will end up with insomia so as melanchony..

[TANNY]

Ya... you were right... Thought about it but I think I shouldn't worry so much about things that might not happen. Oh... I don't mean that I didn't think about it but just worrying to much will not help much... Got some insurance in case I drop dead... ha ha ha... but hey... their dad is still alive right... in case I drop dead.. he will have no excuse for not providing for the kids anymore lah...

Anyway... kids is in secondary school already... think I wouldn't be drop dead any sooner... still teng tak chu...

In the case ... ok... retrenchment or anything like that ... I have back up plans (always have one)..... or else how you think I manage to survive married to a s****d guy.

Tell you girls out there.... never think that you can change a guy... either you accept the guy as he is or reject him... you will never change him.